Dec
Friendships Past
Most people know folks who had been good friends. Together, they made many a great memory. It seemed that the friendship would never end. Yet somewhere, somehow, it did end. People who had once been friends become strangers. A few might even be estranged to the point of animosity.
What happened? Each instance is different. The most obvious cause may be an argument, a change in location, a new set of circumstances or a simple case of drifting apart. Those are causes we notice. Beneath them are the causes we miss. More often than not, we lose contact with people because someone or something changed. In a few cases, someone did not change. It is that simple. People drift apart because they do not belong together any more. Though there is a slim chance that they may rejoin in the future, they usually drift even further apart.
There is no doubt that it hurts when a friendship goes sour. These things happen. What makes it worse is when a friend has made a horrible choice and we cannot dissuade him. You cannot join him in his choice. Because of it, you must get away. One might say that the friend values his choice over your friendship.
The price of living an unsheltered life is regrets. We all have a few. Most of us include regrets over past friendships that are no more. While some were a case of changing or not changing, there might be one or two that we still feel could have been avoided. Could they? One cannot be certain. The point is that we keep living, make new friends and confidently more forward with the flow of Life. As I have said many a time, as good as things were, as good as they are, the best is yet to come!
